Examining the dreaded drop-off and rampant mum guilt
Today when I dropped Iggy off at his care he held onto me and said ‘I miss mummy, I want to come with you to work’.
For context, his care is a small 4-6 child nature playgroup run by the extremely caring and fabulous Jasmine from Earthsong Nature Programs. Iggy loves it and although it is new has happily waved goodbye to me every time. I have been lucky with my babies and 98% of the time when I leave them they feel safe, regulated, confident and secure and wave me off with ease (I know this is not the experience of many and I am grateful for that). The few times that they have had apprehensions I have honoured them and either taken them home or settled them in, with my presence for extended times. I have had this luxury when not working, and I am acutely aware that many do not, and for that, I feel many emotions that stem back to the complete lack of support for mothers and the immense financial pressures we have in this day and age. Grrrr!
It did get me thinking, about this guilt-ridden battle that so many parents, (more than often mothers) fight every morning before they even step into their paid work for the day. So I talked to our community and this is what I found…
Live a long, healthy and happy life with Ayurveda, with Jessica Rose
Meet Jess..
When it comes to our Saint Jess, founder of Jessica Rose Ayurveda, she glows from the inside out. Mother of two busy boys Jess is living and breathing proof that an Ayurvedic lifestyle can support and help you thrive through pregnancy, postpartum and beyond. Jess has made it her life’s work to be dedicated to health and wellness and guide you to do the same. We sat down with the wonderous Jess and got the top tips for busy mothers who want to incorporate some ancient wisdom into their days…
Sharing the birthday prep load
Last week was Sadie’s 5th birthday. By now, I understand all that is involved in birthday party prep. There is a mammoth list that unfortunately often (not always) sits with mother dearest. Birthday parties are NOT the responsibility of mums but both parents.
This year, I put on my project management hat, split the tasks up, got support where needed and ta-dah the party didn’t result in me falling into a heap.
So here are my top takeaways:
From the outset, (if possible) split responsibility for party/birthday management. This year, Nick and I agreed that I would own Sadie’s and he would own Rocco’s celebrations. Some of the tasks to consider: invite list, invitation prep, actual invites and rsvp management, theming, decorations, games, music, food planning, food shop, food prep, presents, card, pre-party cleaning, birthday cake, post-party cleaning, game facilitating & general hosting.
Schedule time into the calendar for the party prep. I know it sounds super basic but I would typically wait for the day before to get it all under control. This year it was all done by the Thursday, party on Sunday which meant we could wake up on the day and simply setup and finish making food.
Healthy anger, name your feels and play as a language with Jess from Raising Resilience
Often as parents, we can be brought to our knees with overwhelm, anger, confusion or just pure exhaustion. We can be left scratching our heads, wondering how could we have reacted better or what may have been a better approach to that big emotion our child was feeling. Well, we asked Jess, an expert in emotional and mental health for children and parents and mother herself for her advice on some of the big topics. Here is what she said…
Supported motherhood on a budget
As the ‘cost of living crisis’ continues to make our purse strings tight, the last thing we want to have to sacrifice is our well-being and our support in the name of a budget. We get it, getting a massage and regular acupuncture feels like a stretch. Often as mothers, we will be the first person in the family to be cut of out the necessities. We keep our kids dressed like kings and queens and wear undies until they fall off (you might have seen Cel’s undies on Instagram recently). The struggle is real.
What we do know though, is if we continue to put our needs last, our body will take score and eventually the cracks start to show up and need more attention than ever! If we can prevent reaching our breaking point then maybe in the long run it will cost us less after all. Below we have compiled a list of free and cheaper soul-nourishing rituals to fill your cup and included some fabulous cheeky discounts our Saints have offered our community. Plus some smart switches that will save you dollars, ready to be spent on that facial you deserve.
Thrifty Eats: A weekly meal plan for $100 with Lemonhead recipes
Cozzie Livs, has us crying in the aisles when we are looking down the barrel of yet another week of meals!! Raising children means having to think creatively in so many ways, including your meal prep. We want nourishing meals, variety, freshness and we want it now, and having to factor in $ is a total buzz-kill.
So we decided help was needed and a collaboration was born…